My mom is really getting me disgruntled… :l
[TW: Eating Disorders, Inferiority Complex]
What type of mother constantly goes around policing her children about their looks? Apparently my mom.
Before I start this rant, here’s some background information: my mom is critical and always tried to pluck our “bad” features and fulfill what society expects. In other words, she’s not body-positive, and teaches us to hate our features and try to change. In late middle/early high school I suffered from a bad case of anorexia and inferiority complex and instead of helping she contributed to it. Around the same time her constant nagging of my big sister gave her a bad self-esteem too. Both still linger.
My little sister is around the age that my mother gets really vicious, and I don’t want her to fall into the same fate that my big sister and I have fallen into. Earlier today, my mother told her that “you’re almost perfect everywhere, except you need to lose that gut. Stop eating so much”. Is this the type of thing you tell a 15 year old girl? IS this the type of thing you tell anyone? No! My sister told me, and I called my mom out for it. My mom takes everything as a challenge to her parental role and won’t admit she’s wrong, and went on about how shes’s trying to “help” my little sister. All she’s going to end up doing is developing self esteem issues in my little sister like I had! I called her out and my little sister stood her ground and told her she’s not buying it, but you can tell she’s hurt. I really don’t like my mom’s methods of parenting…
So yeah, I try to set a body positive environment for my sister and remind her just how beautiful and talented and intelligent she is, but I fear that my mother will instill body shaming and self-hating into her. I really don’t want to see that happen. She’s strong, but words hurt. Tumblr, if you can, can you please send my sister some nice messages? Body positive messages that’ll make her day? Her url is ifightlikeagrrl.tumblr.com. I’d appreciate it a lot!
I’m going to have a serious conversation with my mom about this later today, earlier it was just a brief argument.
Hopin’ for the best outcome S:
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